By Vicki the Viking, Campus Carrier Advice Columnist

Dear Vicki,

I have been debating on buying sex toys, but I don’t know where to start. What is it like? Does the person ringing you up judge you? Also, I feel weird about buying them. What should I do?

Sincerely,

Playtime

 Dear Playtime,

Don’t feel weird about buying sex toys! It is perfectly normal and not something to be nervous about, even though it is OK that you are, your feelings are completely valid.

If you have a vagina, a great place to start is a small vibrator. Make sure you do your research first, but in general, something that has adjustable settings and doesn’t contain phthalates or other toxic chemicals is best. Stay away from jelly or rubber and choose plastic, silicone and elastomer because they are long lasting, hypoallergenic, easy to clean and feel the most natural. 

If you have a penis, cock rings are a good way to get started. They are designed to gently trap blood in the penis once you have achieved an erection, and are available in many different materials, sizes and shapes. A ring will improve the firmness of the penis and also increase your stamina. Cock rings can be used during sex to enhance both your and your partner’s enjoyment.

When you go into an adult store, it is not as strange or uncomfortable as you might imagine. Most employees are welcoming and knowledgeable about their products. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or ask them to let you test vibration strength before purchasing your toy. 

If you would rather order online, there are feminist sex shops that offer discreet packaging such as LoveHoney, Smitten Kitten and Good Vibrations. The most important thing is to feel comfortable with the store you choose and to feel comfortable with the toy you purchase, so make sure to do your research.

Happy hunting, 

Vicki