by Vicki the Viking, Campus Carrier Advice Columnist

Dear Vicki, 

I have some very thin friends that complain about being fat all the time. I’m a little overweight, and it’s really hard for me to listen to them talk about themselves in that way and wonder what they say or think about me when I’m not around. What should I do? 

Sincerely, 

The fat friend

 Dear friend,

It can be really difficult to be around friends you constantly compare yourself to. However, your job is not letting their body issues reflect on you. Your friends should be more conscious of the way their words affect you, but because they aren’t, you should try and talk to them about how uncomfortable it makes you.

Instead of telling them they’re wrong for feeling fat, you could try telling them that you feel similarly and when they complain about it it makes you feel even more self-conscious. 

If your friends talk about how they feel overweight all the time, chances are they are focused too much on their perception of their own bodies to be discussing yours behind your back. 

I know it’s hard to bring up personal topics like this to your friends, but it’s important to let them know how you are feeling. If they are your friends, the last thing they would want is for you to feel uncomfortable. It’s important to support one another and make people feel comfortable and confident in their own skin.

As for your own insecurities, I hope you know that your worth and self-confidence aren’t rooted in your weight. Your friends aren’t your friends because of a number on a scale — they are friends with you because of you. You are beautiful no matter what size clothing you wear.

The point is that you should communicate with your friends and let them know how you are feeling. More than likely, they will respond positively and your friendships will move in a more positive path. Celebrate yourself, and don’t forget to celebrate each other.

Sincerely, 

Vicki